Another Shooting??

Emotions and the News – Another Shooting???

Psychologist Janice Berger has broken down emotions into 10 predominant categories – need, worthlessness, shame, guilt, anxiety – fear – panic, anger, powerlessness, hurt – regret – grief, loneliness and numbness – deadness – flatness. There is much overlap in terms of the way these emotions exhibit themselves in behavioural patterns; please keep this in mind regarding the observations and conclusions made here.

Guns don’t kill, people do

Why another shooting? Power, hurt or anger may be the underlying issue.
Powerlessness is acquired by – 1. Anger can be a way to cover irrational guilt, which is guilt which we take on when we try to take responsibility for events that we have no control over. An example would be a failed parental relationship; 2. The inability to appropriately express or discharge anger as children leads to anger as adults; 3. learning at a young age that expressing anger was unacceptable to others and we may suffer punishment, rejection or the withdrawal of affection or approval if we express anger; and 4. children are not equipped to explain, defend, justify or document their feelings. When we ask them to do so, their right to their anger is diminished.

Clearly, there are many opportunities to harbour anger within. This anger may exhibit itself in many ways – outbursts, group activities such as mob violence even when the cause is socially acceptable, sexual violence, bullying against people or pets, shootings!! Make the connection between so many news stories and these ways that anger exhibits itself.

So how do we reduce or eliminate these negative outcomes? According to Janice Berger, we have a built in healing mechanism. Our flesh heals itself with little or no intervention on our parts. Our emotions, read mental health, requires our cooperation – recognizing that blame and responsibility are two sides of the same coin. Understanding the mechanisms and framework in which we operate personally in the emotional realm.

You can get more input by taking a look at my Emotional House, which is a free download from my website. Or for a minimal fee take a look at the Emotional Guide. I care about you and the way our world looks!!

In summary, you have the ability to link your current emotional issue with past events, then feel through what you experienced in the past. This feeling through deflates the balloon of held emotion which drives your disconnected behaviours – the violence (in this discussion) that wrecks relationships or your own life.

As a Christian, recognizing that real power lies in the hands of God also puts my humanity into perspective. That is an area of life you may chose to explore.

Wishing you a happy, healthy and fulfilling 2015. Tim

Why emotional wellness?

Why Emotional Wellness?

Our need for emotional wellness may be greater than we initially realize. What is the underlying cause of drunkenness which causes so much grief to families and costs us so much, in the courts and hospital system? What is the cause of shootings (power over behavior)? In Canada we have spent over 1,000 million dollars on the gun registry and the carnage continues. Apparently trying to control (another power tactic) guns is not working. What of the robberies (invasion of your privacy) that are driven by the need for funds to buy drugs? What is the underlying cause of drug use?

Estimates say that health care, legal costs and lost productivity caused by alcohol, tobacco and illicit drug use in the US alone, costs approximately $559 billion per year. See

. So what is the value of an emotional education?

After much study and reflection, I believe that emotional issues are part of the cause of many of these societal ills. What we commonly do is to try putting a band aid on the issue (why didn’t the gruesome pictures on cigarette boxes effectively curb their use?), rather than addressing the underlying issues. Not that these measures are totally ineffective, but other approaches deserve exploration. I believe there are other avenues or angles from which these issues could be addressed.

My literary work is an attempt to generate a dialogue and language surrounding emotional wellness. This will allow us to speak into the lives of people we know and love, in order to help them get over their emotionally driven behaviors. These behaviors include drug abuse, alcoholism, bullying (shootings), self harm, anger, road rage, sarcasm, shyness, all types of addictions and obsessions, sexual issues, affairs and blaming to name a few.

Phrases and words like responsibility, feeling through (which requires great courage), emotional journal, time line, unmet need, driven behavior, powerlessness, worthlessness, hurt, shame and guilt would be common conversational topics at the office, water cooler and at family dinner tables.

I look forward to our dialogue and the positive outcomes that will result.


Why emotional wellness?

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